This is a very interesting article because, first of all, my mom mentioned a lot of what’s written on here, except she was climbing that corporate ladder back in the 70s in Hong Kong. I guess something hasn’t changed. And these days, I don’t have to attend a social or work function (I am man, just to be clear), I hear the same chattered among women in the function. I really wanted to ask them if they have better things to do or is this it. That infighting and jockeying for position is just ridiculous and getting worse as they now spilled over into social media, where you can pretty much say anything without constrains.
And I think what the author observed in the article is correct. If you don’t have a strong sense of self-confidence and a “I don’t give a f*ck” attitude, it can be devastating (for both men and women) and that’s a decision one has to make and one has to start practicing. I think I figured that out when I was in High School/University because otherwise, it will get to me.
Thank you, Sherman. I agree -- it's blocking the noise or a thick skin that ends up saving us for now. Sorry to hear your mom experienced this as well; I saw it with mine too. Unfortunately I worry this will be endless, given human nature...
Yes. Until there is a change in behavior, this will continue. It’s like watching the LGBTQAI infighting among themselves when they should be uniting. I think the insecurity and the enviousness really speak loud and clear in those functions. Personally, I have no interest in those gathering (the equivalent in men will be “my d*ck is bigger than yours or he with the most toys win”) and my thought has always been - don’t you guys have something more productive or better to do?
Yes. Plus, it has been proven that a zero-sum game never provides the best solution. They have to stop being petty and work towards the larger goals - the we all win together mentality. That’s what those gathering were supposed to be - lift everyone up. Of course it is possible that the real problem is the format of those gathering to start with. Maybe the rules need to be changed. 🤔
This is a very interesting article because, first of all, my mom mentioned a lot of what’s written on here, except she was climbing that corporate ladder back in the 70s in Hong Kong. I guess something hasn’t changed. And these days, I don’t have to attend a social or work function (I am man, just to be clear), I hear the same chattered among women in the function. I really wanted to ask them if they have better things to do or is this it. That infighting and jockeying for position is just ridiculous and getting worse as they now spilled over into social media, where you can pretty much say anything without constrains.
And I think what the author observed in the article is correct. If you don’t have a strong sense of self-confidence and a “I don’t give a f*ck” attitude, it can be devastating (for both men and women) and that’s a decision one has to make and one has to start practicing. I think I figured that out when I was in High School/University because otherwise, it will get to me.
Thank you, Sherman. I agree -- it's blocking the noise or a thick skin that ends up saving us for now. Sorry to hear your mom experienced this as well; I saw it with mine too. Unfortunately I worry this will be endless, given human nature...
Yes. Until there is a change in behavior, this will continue. It’s like watching the LGBTQAI infighting among themselves when they should be uniting. I think the insecurity and the enviousness really speak loud and clear in those functions. Personally, I have no interest in those gathering (the equivalent in men will be “my d*ck is bigger than yours or he with the most toys win”) and my thought has always been - don’t you guys have something more productive or better to do?
It is a true distraction given bigger issues at play!
Yes. Plus, it has been proven that a zero-sum game never provides the best solution. They have to stop being petty and work towards the larger goals - the we all win together mentality. That’s what those gathering were supposed to be - lift everyone up. Of course it is possible that the real problem is the format of those gathering to start with. Maybe the rules need to be changed. 🤔
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